feminist koala

markbuffalos:

some people are gay.

For real, yeah. It’s true. Some people are gay. Some people are bisexual. Some are pansexual, and asexual, and demisexual. Some people are bigender, and transgender, and agender. Some people are aromantic and some are polyamorous.

OH YEAH. THIS SHIT IS SHOCKING.

Some people know their identity from the time they are very young. Sometimes, it changes over the course of their lives. Some people never know they are anything but heterosexual until they’re fifty.

That is real life. That is the existence many people live. That’s why I hate the word minority so much. I think people hear it and think there are only five or six of us clamoring about, calling out privileged bullshit but that is not it. We are fucking everywhere. We are your friends and family, we are the siblings you think you know better than anyone but don’t know that we’re afraid to tell you about being gay. We’re your kids that hear your casual slurs about how people should conform to gender norms and never speak about being trans. We are your employees and co workers who cringe and hate going to work because you can’t fucking shut up about we are ruining society for whatever fucked up reason you justified this shit to yourself.

So fuck you when you say it’s not real life when gsm are protagonists. Fuck you when you say gsm are genre and writing gsm characters ruins tv. Fuck you.

You know what’s real life? That we live our lives like anyone else. That you probably hurt people every fucking time you open your mouth to talk about how gsm people don’t belong here, that something is to be protected from them.

You don’t get to tell us what real life is like. You don’t own reality, whatever else you may think. We don’t stop existing because you pretend we’re not real.

(Source: muhbones)

Regarding Queer Baiting: What it Is and What It is Not

crowleyshouseplant:

it has come to my attention that some people are unclear what “queer baiting” means in a tv show

so let me try to set it down for you

a note before we continue: i focus mainly on being gay, however, I want to note that many times “gay” and “queer” are conflated as being one and the same, which is not how it works. Though “gay” is a kind of queer, it is not the only kind of queer. I would also go so far as to argue that when we refer to “queer baiting” we are usually referring to a very specific kind of “queer baiting,” ie, “gay baiting” because many other queer people, eg, people who are trans, are literally erased from most mainstream narratives because of their very obvious non-presence in them—it is hard to “bait” when their existence is not even acknowledged.

This erasure, this non-presence, is A Very Serious Problem, but for now, I want to focus mainly on queer baiting that usually occurs in a gay context.

that said, let us carry on:

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Uh so this is a really really important read and also this term is entering my vernacular as of NOW.

(Source: warpfactornope)

Let’s look at the twitter thing from the beginning

stfu-moffat:

These are the tweets from Moffat that started the whole debacle surrounding sexualities. If you just look quickly, and isn’t very familiar with LGBTQ rights, this looks like a pretty cool thing. Because the Doctor doesn’t care about sexualities, and that’s… good. But this isn’t what this implies. He claims that The Doctor doesn’t see sexuality, and doesn’t understand it, and needs to have it explained to him. This is problematic because The Doctor has encountered a pretty decent number of non straight characters over the years. He was the one who explained Jack’s sexuality to Rose, he was aware of when Shakespeare  was hitting on him and he knew and was aware of that present day academics are discussing Shakespeare’s sexuality.

The Doctor: Come on! We can have a good flirt later! 
William Shakespeare: Is that a promise, Doctor? 
The Doctor: Oh, fifty-seven academics just punched the air. Come on. 

He knows of Human sexuality, knows how it works, and knows about the discussions surrounding it. If anything, my guess would be that he has a better grasp of it than we do, since he’s been following humanity for such a long time he ought to have a good understanding of the history of oppression and the problems that present day queer people still are faced with. Why doesn’t he already have a universal marriage setting on that screwdriver of his? 

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Just to clarify:

kriegspeil:

There is a difference between in not wanting a character’s entire personality or arc based on their sexuality, and not acknowledging it at all.

Both are problematic. And you don’t have to do one in order to not do the other. Because there appears to be some confusion surrounding this.

Saying “It’s problematic that we see nothing of River’s bisexuality on screen” is not the same as saying “I want an arc that entirely revolves around River’s sexuality”

Saying “I want River’s bisexuality acknowledged” does not mean “Hey, let’s put a bunch of sex scenes in a kid’s show”. Because I think we’ve all agreed that bisexual people have more to their identity than who they’re sleeping with.

(Source: howllor, via themostfeminist)